This will be less of a ‘how to anal sex’ guide and more of an ode to sex with the part of the body that concerns us all: our bums. Everyone has one, and since everyone has one, regardless of their gender, butts are totally inclusive and don’t even let bigots take them for their…
Kategorie: The Kink
Time to let the dog out of the bag… and onto the bed
One evening I found myself once again sitting on the big red couch that belonged to good friends of mine. we were eating dinner, chatting and waiting for the beginning of a mediocre film that some other friends picked out. Since we spoke about the last kink party, they both had attended I wished that…
The bottom surgery that I never wanted, but definitely needed
There are various horror stories of interpersonal boundary crossings in the BDSM world. This is not one of them, on the contrary, this incident is intended to show you what it means to have a purely physical accident that only becomes apparent later. Let it be a lesson to you and weigh up whether you…
Hands, arms or legs bend around the neck – In musing mood
Most of the time engaging in media is a delicate matter. For every article, video essay, podcast, or blog post one should ask oneself: Who is asked? How are they asked? Who decides who will be asked? Who decides how it will be edited? But the people who do are probably in the minority, which…
People are judged by their clothes…
“Do you want to hear the newest tea?”, he turned excitedly towards me. I nodded. I wasn’t so much interest in the newest tea, but very eager to get a break from a long and emotional talk about feelings, missed opportunities, bad communication and a lost future. “So, we were at this party and a…
Smelling like Greek aristocracy – temperature play
Is there anything more romantic than an increasingly escalating massage that at some point is no longer a massage? Most likely, especially since people have the ability to eroticize anything, even everyday scenes in which they would be naked in a non-cinema or porn context. I still wanted to indulge something more hedonistic and try…
Kinky and dead, now what?
Quick warning: I’ve tried to keep the gore to a minimum, however dying isn’t a happy topic nor a pretty process. If you have a problem with reading about funerals, cremation, dead bodys and vague description of decomposition no problem, this post is then simply not for you. There will be another topic in a fortnight.
The rabbit hole of Strap on Sex
Let me start the reflection with a rant. I had very little to do with Strap On Sex up to this point. It was one of those things that was shouted across the schoolyard when certain boys felt they had to prove themselves to everyone. The consequences were either eye-rolling or detention, depending on who…
Doing kinky or being kinky? – In musing mood
Somewhen last week I figured that my relationship to kink is different than from my relationship to gender or sexuality. I would consider myself as trans and very demisexual, if I had to put it into words I would say “I am trans” and “I am demisexual”. With kink it is different… Instead of „being…
Labels – Many don’t help much
“Honey, it’s called a switch”, he answered as soon as I finished my lamentation about feeling lost while being wrapped into his bed sheets. My raised eyebrow, however, made him quickly correct himself. „Of course, it is much more complex.”, he finished. Pleased with his own rescue manoeuvre I moved on; the thoughts stayed. For…