Prelude It wasn’t so long ago that I really devoured everything on the subject of kink and sexuality. This included the podcast ‘Why Are People Into That?!’, also known as ‘Ya(P)->T?!’. Once a week, producer and sex worker Tina Horn interviewed her respective colleagues from the BDSM scene. Each episode focussed on one topic relating…
Autor: Barksandscales
How I Became an Anal Slut
This will be less of a ‘how to anal sex’ guide and more of an ode to sex with the part of the body that concerns us all: our bums. Everyone has one, and since everyone has one, regardless of their gender, butts are totally inclusive and don’t even let bigots take them for their…
Vanilla Readings
Another hobby of mine are (audio) books, enjoy my intellectual diarrhoea on the heard or printed word (this list will be updated over time) Non-fiction book – Ever Since Darwin: Reflections in Natural History by Stephen Jay Gould – Aristotle’s Ladder, Darwin’s Tree: The Evolution of Visual Metaphors for Biological Order by J. David…
Time to let the dog out of the bag… and onto the bed
One evening I found myself once again sitting on the big red couch that belonged to good friends of mine. we were eating dinner, chatting and waiting for the beginning of a mediocre film that some other friends picked out. Since we spoke about the last kink party, they both had attended I wished that…
The emotional side of transitioning
For the lack of an elegant introduction, I will just get straight to the point. In my last post, I wrote about the physicality of undergoing a second puberty, today I want to tell you about a few things that I forgot last time and moreover about the “emotional side of things”. But let’s get…
The physicalities of transitioning
Every now and then there are life situations or circumstances where I find it very difficult to imagine that the average given there is actually the real average. The table in the information brochure on hormone replacement therapy for trans people is one of these situations. According to many, the first physical changes caused by…
The bottom surgery that I never wanted, but definitely needed
There are various horror stories of interpersonal boundary crossings in the BDSM world. This is not one of them, on the contrary, this incident is intended to show you what it means to have a purely physical accident that only becomes apparent later. Let it be a lesson to you and weigh up whether you…
Hands, arms or legs bend around the neck – In musing mood
Most of the time engaging in media is a delicate matter. For every article, video essay, podcast, or blog post one should ask oneself: Who is asked? How are they asked? Who decides who will be asked? Who decides how it will be edited? But the people who do are probably in the minority, which…
Interlude
This blog is now more than a year old. Congratulations to myself, I am astonished that I made it this far. At the same time, I have to admit that the blog is currently falling short. My previous rhythm of every fortnight seems unthinkable and even though I still have so much to think about,…
(Never) lose yourself
Somewhere between two small towns (and a lot of more villages), my brain slowly began to realise what I had experienced that morning. It started with packing my bag, driving to the main station and from there my reality enfolded itself into a two-hour nightmare of cancelled or delayed and overcrowded trains, discussions with taxi…