“Do you want to hear the newest tea?”, he turned excitedly towards me. I nodded. I wasn’t so much interest in the newest tea, but very eager to get a break from a long and emotional talk about feelings, missed opportunities, bad communication and a lost future. “So, we were at this party and a…
Dating, sometimes mating and not far from finding a play partner…
“So, by the way, who are you seeing at the moment?”, I asked playing with their now loose hair. “Dating-wise?”, they looked at me and stopped playing with my necklace. I briefly considered answering something sarcastic, but then decided against it and went for a simple “Yes.” “Not one really…I am still upset and that…
I am (not) made out of names
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet […]”, Juliet asked Romeo, who was standing under her window answering “Call me but love, and I’ll be new baptized; Henceforth I never will be Romeo. […]” I rolled my eyes, sighed, folded my script and made…
The „vicious“ genders of diaries
As a maybe-future historian, I regularly find myself in the predicament of having a promising thought but lacking historical sources. And without sources: no thesis, no term paper, no essay… it was frustrating. It got more frustrating if I thought about the following: Depending on your research question everything can be a source. Historical science…
Comeback Threesome…!
Polyamory is hard, but sometimes it also has its moments. For example, if you end up in bed with more than one person and everyone present is more than willing to go down on each other. (As far as I know, the group-sex counting scale goes like this: Three people for a threesome, four people…
Therapy: round and round and round it goes
I thought long and hard about writing this post and then even longer about publishing it, simply because I don’t want the narrative of „suffering“ trans people to be exploited even more. More than that, I could never imagine that I would ever have anything to contribute to the topic. Neither would I classify my…
On being Polyamourous… – In musing mood
or… experiencing everything everywhere all at once. The nights when I don’t sleep are becoming more frequent and since the temperatures now allow it, it is not uncommon for me to find myself sitting on the riverbank at non-human hours. This night was one of those nights and after unsuccessfully trying to skip stones across…
I read “Come as you are” by Emily Nagoski and here is what I learned… (Part II)
Two weeks ago we had Part I, now here is part two! Chapter 3 – Like, wanting and learning During chapter two I got the impression that getting or being sexually aroused is based on a wibbly wobbly homeostasis of feelings and circumstances. Nagoski calls this: Context. It is not very likely that one is…
I read “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski and here is what I learned… (Part I)
… or with other words: Welcome to another butchered book review. What were you expecting? But trust me, it is well-invested time. What is Come As You Are about? The shortest version I can come up with would be: this book explains the science behind (good) sex. A more elaborate version would be: this book…
Why animal stories?
During my preparations for moving, “Arbeit und Struktur” by Wolfgang Herrendorf accompanied me. Not necessarily the happiest of reads, but at least one in which I found myself emotionally. At one point the author tells how he re-reads his old youth books, on the one hand to see how far they have held up and…