This blog is now more than a year old. Congratulations to myself, I am astonished that I made it this far. At the same time, I have to admit that the blog is currently falling short. My previous rhythm of every fortnight seems unthinkable and even though I still have so much to think about,…
Autor: Barksandscales
(Never) lose yourself
Somewhere between two small towns (and a lot of more villages), my brain slowly began to realise what I had experienced that morning. It started with packing my bag, driving to the main station and from there my reality enfolded itself into a two-hour nightmare of cancelled or delayed and overcrowded trains, discussions with taxi…
Artsy thoughts about medical referrals – In musing mood
„Please bring a referral letter“, „Do you know if you need a referral?“ and my favourite: „Don’t forget your ‘Ü-Schein!’ (which is a hilarious sounding abbreviation for the German translation). I almost felt like a young boy who was desperately waiting for an owl to save him from the dark closet under the staircase… Four…
People are judged by their clothes…
“Do you want to hear the newest tea?”, he turned excitedly towards me. I nodded. I wasn’t so much interest in the newest tea, but very eager to get a break from a long and emotional talk about feelings, missed opportunities, bad communication and a lost future. “So, we were at this party and a…
Dating, sometimes mating and not far from finding a play partner…
“So, by the way, who are you seeing at the moment?”, I asked playing with their now loose hair. “Dating-wise?”, they looked at me and stopped playing with my necklace. I briefly considered answering something sarcastic, but then decided against it and went for a simple “Yes.” “Not one really…I am still upset and that…
I am (not) made out of names
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet […]”, Juliet asked Romeo, who was standing under her window answering “Call me but love, and I’ll be new baptized; Henceforth I never will be Romeo. […]” I rolled my eyes, sighed, folded my script and made…
The „vicious“ genders of diaries
As a maybe-future historian, I regularly find myself in the predicament of having a promising thought but lacking historical sources. And without sources: no thesis, no term paper, no essay… it was frustrating. It got more frustrating if I thought about the following: Depending on your research question everything can be a source. Historical science…
Comeback Threesome…!
Polyamory is hard, but sometimes it also has its moments. For example, if you end up in bed with more than one person and everyone present is more than willing to go down on each other. (As far as I know, the group-sex counting scale goes like this: Three people for a threesome, four people…
Therapy: round and round and round it goes
I thought long and hard about writing this post and then even longer about publishing it, simply because I don’t want the narrative of „suffering“ trans people to be exploited even more. More than that, I could never imagine that I would ever have anything to contribute to the topic. Neither would I classify my…
On being Polyamourous… – In musing mood
or… experiencing everything everywhere all at once. The nights when I don’t sleep are becoming more frequent and since the temperatures now allow it, it is not uncommon for me to find myself sitting on the riverbank at non-human hours. This night was one of those nights and after unsuccessfully trying to skip stones across…