One evening I found myself once again sitting on the big red couch that belonged to good friends of mine. we were eating dinner, chatting and waiting for the beginning of a mediocre film that some other friends picked out. Since we spoke about the last kink party, they both had attended I wished that…
Schlagwort: kink
Doing kinky or being kinky? – In musing mood
Somewhen last week I figured that my relationship to kink is different than from my relationship to gender or sexuality. I would consider myself as trans and very demisexual, if I had to put it into words I would say “I am trans” and “I am demisexual”. With kink it is different… Instead of „being…
Labels – Many don’t help much
“Honey, it’s called a switch”, he answered as soon as I finished my lamentation about feeling lost while being wrapped into his bed sheets. My raised eyebrow, however, made him quickly correct himself. „Of course, it is much more complex.”, he finished. Pleased with his own rescue manoeuvre I moved on; the thoughts stayed. For…
What I like about kink and what I am looking for in it – More rambling
Last time I presented one possibility to figure out what things I chose from the list and why… now I will just deepen the topic, because I had a lot more thoughts about it… But before we dive into that, I figured it would be a good idea to clarify what I like about BDSM…
How to figure out (my) kinks – The first attempt
The earliest encounter with the BDSM community that I can remember was my first CSD. I was somewhere between seven and twelve years old, and my mother and I were standing in one of the city centre drugstores that weekend. Outside, a sea of colours, people, glitter and noise was raging; inside me, the first…