Prelude It wasn’t so long ago that I really devoured everything on the subject of kink and sexuality. This included the podcast ‘Why Are People Into That?!’, also known as ‘Ya(P)->T?!’. Once a week, producer and sex worker Tina Horn interviewed her respective colleagues from the BDSM scene. Each episode focussed on one topic relating…
Schlagwort: bdsm
Hands, arms or legs bend around the neck – In musing mood
Most of the time engaging in media is a delicate matter. For every article, video essay, podcast, or blog post one should ask oneself: Who is asked? How are they asked? Who decides who will be asked? Who decides how it will be edited? But the people who do are probably in the minority, which…
Doing kinky or being kinky? – In musing mood
Somewhen last week I figured that my relationship to kink is different than from my relationship to gender or sexuality. I would consider myself as trans and very demisexual, if I had to put it into words I would say “I am trans” and “I am demisexual”. With kink it is different… Instead of „being…
Labels – Many don’t help much
“Honey, it’s called a switch”, he answered as soon as I finished my lamentation about feeling lost while being wrapped into his bed sheets. My raised eyebrow, however, made him quickly correct himself. „Of course, it is much more complex.”, he finished. Pleased with his own rescue manoeuvre I moved on; the thoughts stayed. For…
What I like about kink and what I am looking for in it – More rambling
Last time I presented one possibility to figure out what things I chose from the list and why… now I will just deepen the topic, because I had a lot more thoughts about it… But before we dive into that, I figured it would be a good idea to clarify what I like about BDSM…
How to figure out (my) kinks – The first attempt
The earliest encounter with the BDSM community that I can remember was my first CSD. I was somewhere between seven and twelve years old, and my mother and I were standing in one of the city centre drugstores that weekend. Outside, a sea of colours, people, glitter and noise was raging; inside me, the first…